بسم الله والصلاة والسلام على رسول الله..
بنات جزاكم الله خير ..
عندي موضوع.. وابي ارائكم عن المرأه يجب انت تجلس بالبيت , بدل من العمل خارج المنزل
طبعا اذا ما لها التزامات بالبيت والاطفال تقدر تشتغل ويكون له دور بالمجتمع بس انا اتكلم
عن ربة المنزل اللي عندها عيال ومسؤليات المفروض انها تجلس بالبيت للأهتمام بالاسره ..
ياليت تساعدوني عن اهم 3 نقاط لازم اوضحها .. كل هذا طبعا بالانجليزي ..
ساعدوني الله لا يحرمكم الاجر .. لأني ما ادري كيف ابدى بالموضوع ..
وانا بأنتظاركم..:23:
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anlife2
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al salam alaikom wa rahmat alah wa barakatoh
my opinion is:
there is no matter if the she work but with some conditions
they are
1- to keep her reputation
2- to do her best in her work without looking to her friends
3- to be able to do both of the works correctly
it means:her work at house & her job
but if she is not in need >>>no need to work because it is better for her to stay at house and take care about her children
لا اقدر ان اعبر اكثر من هذا بالانجلش
تحياتي اختك في الله
my opinion is:
there is no matter if the she work but with some conditions
they are
1- to keep her reputation
2- to do her best in her work without looking to her friends
3- to be able to do both of the works correctly
it means:her work at house & her job
but if she is not in need >>>no need to work because it is better for her to stay at house and take care about her children
لا اقدر ان اعبر اكثر من هذا بالانجلش
تحياتي اختك في الله
sssmm
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السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته
I think in my own prespective that women should not limit themselves to their home's, I'm not saying she should dumb her children on the maid and forget all bout her husband's and children's needs, but there is a limit for all responsibilties. Achieving work is very fulfilling , a person feels a certain peace of mind when finishing a job with all your heart and soul. so, why take that away from women. For example being a teacher is very rewarding in many aspects. Though, raising a child is hard speacilly the first two years, so, i think women should in that duration of time limit themselves to their homes. and i don't mean by that lock her in and throw the key away, lol, Anyway, what i'm trying to say that there are many mmmm you could say levels in a womens life for example when a women is single or newly wed with no children, I'd think work would be a must. Cause why would i even go throw the trouble of studying when I'll end up striaght home??? But when children' are in the picture , I think it's best to stay home for a while , and when the children are all grown up I think a women had every right to go back to work. I hope I've been helpful . :27:
I think in my own prespective that women should not limit themselves to their home's, I'm not saying she should dumb her children on the maid and forget all bout her husband's and children's needs, but there is a limit for all responsibilties. Achieving work is very fulfilling , a person feels a certain peace of mind when finishing a job with all your heart and soul. so, why take that away from women. For example being a teacher is very rewarding in many aspects. Though, raising a child is hard speacilly the first two years, so, i think women should in that duration of time limit themselves to their homes. and i don't mean by that lock her in and throw the key away, lol, Anyway, what i'm trying to say that there are many mmmm you could say levels in a womens life for example when a women is single or newly wed with no children, I'd think work would be a must. Cause why would i even go throw the trouble of studying when I'll end up striaght home??? But when children' are in the picture , I think it's best to stay home for a while , and when the children are all grown up I think a women had every right to go back to work. I hope I've been helpful . :27:
sssmm
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sorry , I forgot to say something
Women should only stay at home if the women herself see's the need to do that and when she does that doesn't mean home imprisonment , cause when ever she feel's like going back to work it is her right. Though, before doing that i think she should write down all the advantages and disadvantages of going back to work. and with that she'll see whats best for her and her family. sorry if i took to long :27:
Women should only stay at home if the women herself see's the need to do that and when she does that doesn't mean home imprisonment , cause when ever she feel's like going back to work it is her right. Though, before doing that i think she should write down all the advantages and disadvantages of going back to work. and with that she'll see whats best for her and her family. sorry if i took to long :27:
You might ask, if family is so important, why should women work at all? The answer is different for everybody. For some it is an economic necessity; given a choice they would rather not work. For others, the challenges present in pursuing a professional career or any work outside the home adds a dimension that can help round us as balanced human beings. We can pursue interests and uncover potentials that homemaking and parenting, no matter how rewarding, leave unfulfilled for some women.
The Western world defines success as being at the top of one's field, wielding power and making lots of money. Being a housewife and mother, therefore, appears antithetical to accomplishment, because one remains at home, not out making ones mark in the world.
In stark contrast stands the Islamic definition of success: To what degree have you become a developed human being? How do you treat your spouse? Neighbors? Business partners? Are you honest with yourself? Are you emulating Gods attributes? Are you raising children to do the same? Because, you see, in Islam, building caring, principled people is an equally valued career for a woman -- and a man.
Work and religious life are not mutually exclusive. Working can be an important part of a rich life. We merely need to decide which definition of success is most important to us so we can prioritize and organize our days, weeks, and months to give everything we can to those we care about, including ourselves. We need to decide how we wish to be affirmed in life, how we wish to be remembered after our deaths.
But priorities remain husband and kids. Because without a family-first priority solidly in place, we cannot expect our own lives, or our children, to be successful.
Speaking for myself, I work because I am a better person for it, because my personality needs to have various intellectual interests and physical occupations outside the home. Work helps me appreciate more of what I've got
A point I would like to emphasize is that it is not a sin to work outside the home while your children are at home. However, that doesn't mean it's always a godly choice. Another point which needs to be made is this. Just because a mother chooses to stay home with her children doesn't mean she will be a godly mom. It is important that a mother understand her responsibility before she makes a decision to go to work. But first a point must be made with respect to her children.
Back to the original question, Is it OK for a woman to work if she has children at home? Well, we have determined that we cannot say it is wrong. However, the woman is responsible for the maintenance of the household, that is, the things pertaining to the house whether it¹s food, clothes, or children. If, therefore, any part of the household is neglected because of the woman's job, then she is not fulfilling her obligation as a wife and mother. Her responsibility as a wife and mother should come before any desire or need to have a job.
With respect to a "need" to work, we all should be very careful and honest with ourselves and God when answering this question, Do you need to work or do you want to maintain a certain standard of living?
I found this nice article, refer to it, it might help you A LOT
Women in Islam
SHARING THE WORK LOAD
It is right that earning a family's livelihood is an obligatory deed of the man and as per Islamic laws, women are not responsible for this act. However, women should not remain idle. Imam Ja'far As Sadiq (AS) stated, "The Al-mighty Allah hates too much sleep and too much rest."
In Usul Al Kafi, it is reported that Fatima Zahra (A) also used to work at home. Anyone, in need or without, should have a job. One should not waste one's life by not doing anything, but one should work and contribute in building a better world. The best job for married women is to take care of the house. Housekeeping, childcare, etc. are areas where women do an excellent job. it is a misconception that the work of house-wives are of no consequence. A talented and hardworking housewife can turn her house into a heavenly place for her husband and children, whose value cannot be measured in terms of money.
The Holy Prophet (SAWA) said: "A woman's jehad is when she attends to her husband."
Umme Salamah asked the Holy Prophet (SAWA): "How much reward is there for a woman's housework?" The Holy Prophet (SAWA) replied:"Any woman who in the way of improving the order of the house, takes something from somewhere and places it some-where else, would enjoy the grace of Allah, and whoever attracts the blessings of Allah, would not be tormented by Allah's Anger."
Umme Salamah said; "0 Messenger (SAWA) of Allah! May my parents be sacrificed for you, please state other rewards for women," The Holy Prophet (SAWA) stated: "When a woman becomes pregnant, Allah rewards her as such as He would to some one who goes for Jehad with all his wealth and life. Then, when she delivers her baby, a call would reach her stating, all your sins are forgiven; start a new life again. Each time she feeds her baby with her milk Allah gives reward equal to that of freeing a slave for each feeding."
Housewives who have spare time on their hands must find something to do. They can read books, learn some skills such as tailoring, knitting, embroidery, etc. As a result they can help their families economically. Working prevents the development of many mental disoders. Hazrat Ali (AS) stated: "Allah likes a pious person who honestly engages in doing a job."
While some women work at home, there are others who prefer an outside job for economical or other reasons. In this case, the best jobs are cultural occupations, or nursing. Women can suitably serve the society as teachers, doctor and nurses. The following are recommendations to those ladies who intend to or who are working outside their homes:
a) Consult your husband before taking up a job. It is your husband's right to grant or refuse you permission to work. Starting to work without your husband's permission will be detrimental to the serenity and the loving atmosphere of your family.Men are also advised not to be adamantly negative unless the job concerned is considered unsuitable for women.
b) Women should observe complete Islamic hejab (covering) when not at home. They should go to work without any make up and with simple clothes. They must avoid mixing with men who are not mehram as much as possible. An office or an institution is a place to work and is not for the purpose of showing off or rivalry. Prestige and dignity does not come with fashionable or attractive clothes, but what you
do and how well you do. Be and act as a dignified Muslim woman. Maintain your self-respect and do not hurt you husband's feeling; save your adornments and your beautiful dresses for him at home.
c) Women should be aware that although they are working outside the house, they are still expected by their husbands and children to attend to such activities as housekeeping, cooking washing and so forth. This can be done by co-operation within the family. An outside job should not pave the way for upsetting the whole family. Husbands are also advised to help their wives with regard to housekeeping. They should not expect their wives to work both outside, and inside the house on their own. Such an expectation is neither lawful nor fair. Men and women should share the housework.
d) If a woman is working outside and has a child, then she should leave the child with someone trusted and kind. It is neither right nor wise to leave children at home on their own, since many children become fearful or helpless when they have to confront difficult situations. Here, we are not speaking of the child who has just learnt to walk. At this stage, no one is more suitable than a mother to look after the child. We're speaking of a child who has been admitted to a nursery or primany school.
e) If the husband agrees for the wife's taking up a job, she must try to select a job in which she comes in contact with minimum number of strangers or non-mehram men. This is in the interest of both herself and the society.
f) May we also remind the husbands, that the wife has a right to work outside the home as long as it does not harm the family environment. And whatever she earns belongs to her alone, no matter what legitimate work she performs or the degree to which the husband helps with housework. A husband has no right to benefit economically in anyway whatsoever from his wife. That is, he cannot expect or demand, by right. He can accept that benefit accruing from his wife, which she shares with him by her own choice and willingness. By the way, that also concerns her work at home. A husband has no right to force her to do housework.
Source: Ahlul Bayt Magazine
The Western world defines success as being at the top of one's field, wielding power and making lots of money. Being a housewife and mother, therefore, appears antithetical to accomplishment, because one remains at home, not out making ones mark in the world.
In stark contrast stands the Islamic definition of success: To what degree have you become a developed human being? How do you treat your spouse? Neighbors? Business partners? Are you honest with yourself? Are you emulating Gods attributes? Are you raising children to do the same? Because, you see, in Islam, building caring, principled people is an equally valued career for a woman -- and a man.
Work and religious life are not mutually exclusive. Working can be an important part of a rich life. We merely need to decide which definition of success is most important to us so we can prioritize and organize our days, weeks, and months to give everything we can to those we care about, including ourselves. We need to decide how we wish to be affirmed in life, how we wish to be remembered after our deaths.
But priorities remain husband and kids. Because without a family-first priority solidly in place, we cannot expect our own lives, or our children, to be successful.
Speaking for myself, I work because I am a better person for it, because my personality needs to have various intellectual interests and physical occupations outside the home. Work helps me appreciate more of what I've got
A point I would like to emphasize is that it is not a sin to work outside the home while your children are at home. However, that doesn't mean it's always a godly choice. Another point which needs to be made is this. Just because a mother chooses to stay home with her children doesn't mean she will be a godly mom. It is important that a mother understand her responsibility before she makes a decision to go to work. But first a point must be made with respect to her children.
Back to the original question, Is it OK for a woman to work if she has children at home? Well, we have determined that we cannot say it is wrong. However, the woman is responsible for the maintenance of the household, that is, the things pertaining to the house whether it¹s food, clothes, or children. If, therefore, any part of the household is neglected because of the woman's job, then she is not fulfilling her obligation as a wife and mother. Her responsibility as a wife and mother should come before any desire or need to have a job.
With respect to a "need" to work, we all should be very careful and honest with ourselves and God when answering this question, Do you need to work or do you want to maintain a certain standard of living?
I found this nice article, refer to it, it might help you A LOT
Women in Islam
SHARING THE WORK LOAD
It is right that earning a family's livelihood is an obligatory deed of the man and as per Islamic laws, women are not responsible for this act. However, women should not remain idle. Imam Ja'far As Sadiq (AS) stated, "The Al-mighty Allah hates too much sleep and too much rest."
In Usul Al Kafi, it is reported that Fatima Zahra (A) also used to work at home. Anyone, in need or without, should have a job. One should not waste one's life by not doing anything, but one should work and contribute in building a better world. The best job for married women is to take care of the house. Housekeeping, childcare, etc. are areas where women do an excellent job. it is a misconception that the work of house-wives are of no consequence. A talented and hardworking housewife can turn her house into a heavenly place for her husband and children, whose value cannot be measured in terms of money.
The Holy Prophet (SAWA) said: "A woman's jehad is when she attends to her husband."
Umme Salamah asked the Holy Prophet (SAWA): "How much reward is there for a woman's housework?" The Holy Prophet (SAWA) replied:"Any woman who in the way of improving the order of the house, takes something from somewhere and places it some-where else, would enjoy the grace of Allah, and whoever attracts the blessings of Allah, would not be tormented by Allah's Anger."
Umme Salamah said; "0 Messenger (SAWA) of Allah! May my parents be sacrificed for you, please state other rewards for women," The Holy Prophet (SAWA) stated: "When a woman becomes pregnant, Allah rewards her as such as He would to some one who goes for Jehad with all his wealth and life. Then, when she delivers her baby, a call would reach her stating, all your sins are forgiven; start a new life again. Each time she feeds her baby with her milk Allah gives reward equal to that of freeing a slave for each feeding."
Housewives who have spare time on their hands must find something to do. They can read books, learn some skills such as tailoring, knitting, embroidery, etc. As a result they can help their families economically. Working prevents the development of many mental disoders. Hazrat Ali (AS) stated: "Allah likes a pious person who honestly engages in doing a job."
While some women work at home, there are others who prefer an outside job for economical or other reasons. In this case, the best jobs are cultural occupations, or nursing. Women can suitably serve the society as teachers, doctor and nurses. The following are recommendations to those ladies who intend to or who are working outside their homes:
a) Consult your husband before taking up a job. It is your husband's right to grant or refuse you permission to work. Starting to work without your husband's permission will be detrimental to the serenity and the loving atmosphere of your family.Men are also advised not to be adamantly negative unless the job concerned is considered unsuitable for women.
b) Women should observe complete Islamic hejab (covering) when not at home. They should go to work without any make up and with simple clothes. They must avoid mixing with men who are not mehram as much as possible. An office or an institution is a place to work and is not for the purpose of showing off or rivalry. Prestige and dignity does not come with fashionable or attractive clothes, but what you
do and how well you do. Be and act as a dignified Muslim woman. Maintain your self-respect and do not hurt you husband's feeling; save your adornments and your beautiful dresses for him at home.
c) Women should be aware that although they are working outside the house, they are still expected by their husbands and children to attend to such activities as housekeeping, cooking washing and so forth. This can be done by co-operation within the family. An outside job should not pave the way for upsetting the whole family. Husbands are also advised to help their wives with regard to housekeeping. They should not expect their wives to work both outside, and inside the house on their own. Such an expectation is neither lawful nor fair. Men and women should share the housework.
d) If a woman is working outside and has a child, then she should leave the child with someone trusted and kind. It is neither right nor wise to leave children at home on their own, since many children become fearful or helpless when they have to confront difficult situations. Here, we are not speaking of the child who has just learnt to walk. At this stage, no one is more suitable than a mother to look after the child. We're speaking of a child who has been admitted to a nursery or primany school.
e) If the husband agrees for the wife's taking up a job, she must try to select a job in which she comes in contact with minimum number of strangers or non-mehram men. This is in the interest of both herself and the society.
f) May we also remind the husbands, that the wife has a right to work outside the home as long as it does not harm the family environment. And whatever she earns belongs to her alone, no matter what legitimate work she performs or the degree to which the husband helps with housework. A husband has no right to benefit economically in anyway whatsoever from his wife. That is, he cannot expect or demand, by right. He can accept that benefit accruing from his wife, which she shares with him by her own choice and willingness. By the way, that also concerns her work at home. A husband has no right to force her to do housework.
Source: Ahlul Bayt Magazine
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